Is your partner the one for you? If your life is showing these 4 signs, you may have found your perfect match! According to relationship expert Talia Goldstein, couples that last show these 4 signs. With that said, if you’re not showing these signs, it doesn’t mean you should immediately go dump the person you’re with. You may have still found your perfect match, and you just need to make some adjustments.
1. You Travel the Same Way
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“A good match is people who are willing and wanting to travel the same way,” Goldstein said.
If you want to rough it in a tent, but she thinks that idea is crazy and needs a 5-star resort, you may need to rethink your relationship. While a relationship like this can work, it’s going to cause some difficulties.
“It’s indicative of your lifestyle,” Goldstein said. “It could lead to problems down the road.”
For example, these lifestyle differences could come into play when it’s time to buy a house or pick an education path for your children, the expert said.
“If you have a really narrow mind about the way that you travel, you probably have that same mindset in other aspects of your life,” she added.
2. You Have Common Interests You Love Doing Together
This one’s obvious, right? It is… but still so many people end up with a partner they have nothing in common with. Maybe they went strictly for looks and didn’t care about anything else. I personally couldn’t be in a long-term relationship with someone based on looks alone, and Goldstein agrees.
“There should be at least two or three things you really like to do together,” Goldstein said. “It should be about spending time together.”
Not only should you both enjoy a few of the same hobbies or activities, you should also enjoy doing them together. Spending quality time with your significant other is what really matters.
3. Your Relationship Has the Right Balance
Goldstein states that in the majority of successful relationships she’s witnessed, the couple strikes a balance where one of them is “The Star” and one of them is “The Rock”.
“I found that the majority of my success stories fall into those categories, where sometimes one of them is outgoing and the life of the party, where the other is more stable and supportive,” Goldstein said.
So if you’re super outgoing and your partner is a huge introvert (or vice-versa), that’s actually a good sign. Your social energies should compliment each other. Couples with two outgoing people (or two introverts) typically have more problems that those with inverted personalities.
“If you have the yin and the yang, they balance each other out,” the expert said. “I’ve found that balance works really well in a relationship.”
4. You’re With Someone Who Makes You Feel Good About Yourself
Many couples sap each other’s energy, and neither partner gets a chance to be themselves or express how they truly feel. These are very bad relationships. Instead, if you feel like you can be your complete self in your relationship, you’re on the right track.
“Relationships where you truly feel like you’re the best version of yourself — that’s the best way to see if you’re a good match,” Goldstein said.
If you two can do weird stuff together (like fart, sit around in your underwear, or do crazy dances and make crazy noises – err, maybe that’s just me…) then you’re likely to stick together!
These four signs show your relationship is going well. I can’t stress enough, however, that if your partner and you don’t feel like you show these signs that doesn’t mean you haven’t found your perfect match. It just means you may need to change the direction of your relationship and work on a few things. Good luck!